Have you ever been in a situation –
Where you were about to break !!
But you chose to be strong !!
Where you were about to lose your Self Confidence !!
But you chose to believe !!
Where you were about to Cry in pain
But you chose to Smile !!
Where you completely fucked up
But you chose to learn from it !!
Where you were in a complete meltdown
But you chose to Hold on !!
Where you thought of giving up
But a small thing gave you Hope and made you to Continue On the path !!
We all fail, fall down, get hurt that is how we learn. Please never give up because you made a mistake. Learn from it and never repeat it next time.
Sometimes you may feel like you are not succeeding at all. All you are facing is just humiliation and Failures. You may get a feel like despite all the hard work you are giving, you are not getting any appreciations or benefits out of it. You may think the lady luck is not on your side. Sometimes you just can’t “get over it”. Some pain will not go away from you. You just can’t forget something. Just believe that not everything is a speed bump or road block. Sometimes it’s a swamp of pain that you just have to wade through or it’s an avalanche of sucktitude and you have to tunnel your way out. Luck is not something which comes by its own. Only if you make some effort towards it, it will just boost your chances of success. It’s okay if you have to hang out in the difficulty for a while. Rest. Breathe. Be Calm. Work Hard and Just don’t give up. Actually Failure is just an Option. If you are not failing it means that you are not thinking out of the box and you are not innovating.
Failure can be an option, but Quitting/Giving up should never be One !!
When we talk about overcoming failure in pursuit of success, the first name that comes to our mind is Thomas Alva Edison. He was the one who invented the commercially usable Light Bulb. There were light bulbs existing before that also. But they were not feasible for commercial usage. These early bulbs had extremely short lifespans, were too expensive to produce or used too much energy. So he tried a lot of materials. He failed nearly 10000 times trying different materials as a substitute for the filament for the bulb. After so many tries, Edison and team found that Carbonized Bamboo is the best material which could be affordable, sustainable and inexpensive. After failing nearly 10000 times. He said in a quote, ” I have not failed 10000 times, Actually I have successfully found 10000 ways that will not work!”. What’s good about Edison is that he never thought failure as a speed bump or hindrance, he never had Quitting/ Giving up as an option even. He just believed and made use of each failure as a great Opportunity to focus on what went wrong and progressed towards his dream with each step. All he had achieved is all because of his Focus, Constant Hard Work, Never Give Up attitude. Everyone should learn from this and focus on making their dream a reality. Smarter and Successful people are those who spent more time with the problems. If you spend a lot of time with it eventually you would break through the solution at one point of time.
One more person who comes to my mind for never giving up is J.K Rowling – A divorcee, lived on government aid and could barely afford to feed her baby in 1994. Just three years later her first book “Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s stone” was published. When she was shopping it out, she was so poor she couldn’t afford a computer or even the cost of photocopying the 90,000-word novel, so she manually typed out each version to send to publishers. It was rejected dozens of times until finally Bloomsbury, a small London publisher, gave it a second chance after the CEO’s eight-year-old daughter fell in love with it. She believed someone will recognize the work, so she waited with patience and perseverance. Believe in the work you did and continue working on it. You will get recognized one day. Wait for your time to come. Until then Never Give Up.
Repeat this mantra always to you: I don’t know how my life story will end, but nowhere in any of the chapters will there be a moment like I Gave Up and I regretted it. You should never realize like success was that close, and you would have achieved it if you have persevered.
Having Never Give Up attitude can spread positive vibes, promote optimistic beliefs, helps to realize your strengths and weaknesses, gives you happy memories in the end, and also makes you a role model for others.
But I can’t say you should never give up, you can. If you think that you don’t like that path of the choice. You are not finding any happiness towards it. You are not seeing a future towards it. If you are thinking that is not your stream. But don’t give up if you like it and it’s hard to achieve and you failed. Work based on your intuition. If it says it is your path. Just Follow it and develop yourself towards that. Fail. Fail Hard. Fail Better. Your dreams don’t have an expiration date. One Day you will succeed. But Never Give Up. Miracles can happen anytime.
I have been through many such Never Give Up situations in my life too !!
I was a good student in terms of Academics from Childhood most importantly because of my Family Situation. I am not from a very rich family. My Father worked day and night to send me to a good school. He could have made me get education in a government school. But He chose that his son must study only in a best quality school. He sweat his blood out each and every day to get me a seat and pay the fees for my studies. Even though fees grew gradually from 1000 to 35000 till I completed my High School, he never had a thought of removing me from that private matriculation school. I studied well because not to get a high mark and show off in front of everyone, but to satisfy my father so that the hard work he is giving is not going in vain. Every day before the exam, I used to think of him and his hard work for making me study in a good school and that will boost my focus and concentration. I made sure even though I did not get them a great applause, I don’t bring their head down in front of others because of me. But my aim in life is getting them great applause actually. One day I will achieve it. My Parents and their hard work are the most important reason for me never giving up.
During 10th Standard, I used to top the class from the smallest Cycle test to the big Half yearly examination. I had a teacher who was like a friend to me. She was my English Teacher. She always used to say to me that I would top the rank list in the SSLC Public Exam. She asked me to promise that I will be the one scoring the highest marks in English of that 10th standard batch. I promised her that and worked very hard for achieving it. I read through in and out the book. I referred a lot of question banks. I read day and night for English exam. She bought me a Hero Pen as a gift for me for boosting me up for my exams. Exams got completed. Results came. I got good marks in all subjects except English . Actually I wrote English Exam very well than other subjects. But I don’t know why I got low marks. That Broke me that day. All other subjects I got above 95/100 but in English I got 84/100. I was very disappointed. I cried for the first time that day not for the marks but for failing my favourite teacher’s Hope. I thought I can’t even see her face with confidence after that. I asked my parents if I can change the school for high school studies. But there was no option, I had to continue with the same School as I said about my father’s hard work above. But I had that fire inside me to prove my capacity next time.
In +2, I chose Biology Group. The toughest group of High School. My Mom’s desire was to make me a Doctor. She believed that I was capable. Her belief always boosted me and I topped the class during +1 and +2 also. I studied like anything to achieve her aim. I got the same teacher as my English teacher in +2 also. It was awkward seeing her face in the beginning of the phase of +1 but gradually I got that fire inside me to prove her in +2 exams. I promised her myself that I would top the English exams in +2. And there is no change in that. I said her mark my words somewhere. She bought me Hero Pen this time also as a gift. Exams completed. Results Came. And I topped the English Exams in my school. I got 196/200. But ! But ! While Succeeding in one goal, I failed on the other goal. I broke my Mom’s Dreams by an inch. I Failed to Achieve the Cutoff for joining Government Medical University by a very small gap. Since we are not rich, we could not afford to join in Self financing or private medical college which will cost crores of rupees. I felt very bad that day. Broke again. Cried again. At Least that was my English teacher who I will see only in the school. But this was a dream for my Mom. And this time too I wrote well but I failed to achieve the cut off. I don’t know why. I was like I fell into a deep Hollow Hole. But it was my Mom herself who comforted me and helped me move on.
After failing to become a doctor, I chose Mechanical Engineering. Not because I had a lot of interest in it but because of the advice that came from friends, family and neighbours. I liked Computer Science Engineering. But People said that since you chose Biology, Computer Science will be very difficult for you. Choose Mechanical Engineering. After First Year, I realized I had made a mistake. But I chose to accept the mistake and master it. I topped My Engineering exams in all semesters. Campus Placements came and A Service based IT MNC came for recruitment. I want to get placed in a Core Company. But I attended that Service based IT MNC for fun and I got placed in that. And my college banned me from attending any other interviews since I got placed and they said that I may take the opportunities of others if I attend other companies. They said I got into a White collar job, why am i asking them for an interview to get into a blue collar job. I got Broke again. Core dream got diminished. I made up my mind towards the IT sector.
I entered the software company for an internship during college times itself. I learned a lot during the internship. But it was very difficult for me to adapt because I am from a non IT branch. But I held on. Internship got over and I got placed in Chennai. On the third day of the initial training they asked me to get transferred to Hyderabad at once. My Manager asked me to move to Hyderabad that night itself. The statement which he said broke me literally. He said just take a shirt and leave for Hyderabad and join the project in the morning else you will be trouble and maybe terminated. Me who was new to all this and from a middle class family had absolutely no idea what to do. But I had a hope in terms of my friend. Who gave me the hope that day and encouraged me to leave for Hyderabad and join the project next day. I traveled in Aeroplane for the first time that day. I should thank him a lot for that. If he was not there that day. I would have quit my job that day. But I moved on to Hyderabad and now I have completed 2 years successfully in this company. Now I am living in Bangalore working in my second project with a respectable salary giving my 100% towards my work daily and being one of the critical resources of the company getting appreciations for the work. Making my parents proud. But there is a lot in my life to achieve. My dreams Pinnacle is a lot higher.I am working day and night towards it. Even though I have failed a lot of times to achieve things, I would feel I have something bigger than that to achieve in my life and move on.
Even My Love life was not successful, I have failed a lot of times. But by each step, I am learning what is wrong with me, what mistakes I did and I am rectifying it. I am spreading happiness and aura of love to everyone each and everyday. I strongly believe that I will find my soulmate very very soon. I realized we should not give up on people too. Even though they gave up on us, we should do whatever we can to help everyone we love. Relationships are very important in life, that too friendship is the most important one among those. Never ever lose a good friend. Don’t give up on them that soon. Fight Hard to keep them in your life.
There came a lot of hindrances to my writing. I write a lot almost each and everything happening in my life. But since these are my initial stages. I am not having that much of readers. My best friends read like my first 2 or 3 writings may be. Then they stopped reading that too. When friends don’t read should I even say about others. But I never stopped. I created this blog and I am writing and posting for my self happiness and also In a slight hope that if I succeed one day, this will be referred and my small writings which I am writing today will connect to many people one day. As a writer my only dream is to connect to the emotions of people. I want to make them laugh, cry, happy, motivated and make them feel what I felt while writing. I want to hear the outpouring of Emotions. That is what my dream is. There is also a selfish motto for me chosing writing as my passion. Although I cannot become a doctor who mends the Humans when their body get hurt. I will become a doctor who mends the Humans, when their hearts get hurt – Through my motivating words. By this way I will achieve my Mom’s dream of me becoming a doctor. I had a thought of giving up a lot of times, but I chose to hold on. If you start doing things for your own happiness, you will never give up. My Dream is to publish my Lifetime’s Dream Novel One day. I am working hard towards it. I promise today, that I will achieve it and in the course of this, I will NEVER GIVE UP !!!!!
Let me tell you an inspirational story of an old mule.
There was an old mule. One day accidentally, he fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer has evaluated the situation and thought to himself, that neither the well nor the old mule was worth the efforts to save them. Thus he decided to haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well.
So the farmer called his neighbours and together they started to shovel dirt into the well. The old mule was terrified and hysterical in the beginning. But soon one hopeful idea came to his mind – every time a shovel of dirt landed on his back, he would shake it off and step up!
He repeated these work to himself again and again: “Shake it off and step up”. This way he could struggle the panic and encourage himself. After some time, the mule had stepped over the well‘s wall.
Although terribly tired, he was the winner, he saved his own life. He decided to face his adversity positively and not to give up, and thus he won.
What seemed to bury him, actually saved him, owing to his confidence and restless efforts.
If you ever get the thought of giving up. Just think of all the efforts you made to reach the position you are in now. While starting the path, you would have never imagined reaching this point. But now you reached it. If you continue your hard work from here without giving up you would reach the Pinnacle of your dream one day. Instead of quitting after reaching this long, you can quit before starting the path only so that your time and effort would get saved and you can use it effectively in some other work. If you don’t fight for what you want, you will be forever fighting with yourself.
The Only thing you should give up is the choice of Giving Up !!
Remember this – “It is impossible to defeat a person who never gives up”
So, NEVER GIVE UP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!